Thursday, September 29, 2005

How to Treat a Woman vs How to Treat a Man

Wine her, Dine her;
Call her, Hold her;
Surprise her,
Compliment her;
Smile at her,
Listen to her;
Laugh with her,
Cry with her;
Romance her,
Encourage her;
Believe in her,
Pray with her;
Pray for her,
Cuddle with her;
Shop with her,
Give her jewelry;
Buy her flowers,
Hold her hand;
Write love letters to her; and
Go to the ends of the earth and
back again for her.


Show up naked.
Bring chicken wings.

I received the above post in an email from my group of sisters. Upon receipt, I cracked up at it, thinking to myself, "Ain't that the truth!"

After the day was over and I was at home unwinding doing my reflection, it again crossed my mind, but this time I thought about it from the male's point of view and this is what I came up with:

At the cost of being drummed out of the sisterhood club, I just want to give a holler to those (not all) sisters (females) who expect all of the nurturing above in exchange for some s*x and some take out (if he's lucky). Now, I'm not gonna front, I'm not the cookingest sister in the world, but I can read a recipe at 55wpm.

Having become a Dear Abbylequa or Dr. Ruthquisha of sorts in the online dating arena, I've heard just as many or maybe more, tales of woe from men who are raising their children without child support etc. (Blew my mind!)

Yes, as women, we've been mistreated, lied to, cheated on, abused, misused and more, but in our attempts to rise above our situations and circumstances, does it mean we have to grind the brothers (men) down, reduce them to the lowest common denominator?

Can our reclaiming our selfworth, declaration of respect for ourselves or covenant to hold men accountable for their actions not include respect for the men as well?

I dunno about you but downing someone else to make me feel better, hasn't been working so about you?

I say we throw away the gender card and treat men, the way we want to be treated?

What say you?


MaxiSmeg said...

That's a tad unfair isn't it?

Rest assured that we're not all that primitive (not to say we wouldn't be averse to it once in a while)

Incidentally I think that a guy should do all the above and more.

Dee said...

Hi Maxi,

You caught me before I'd completed the post. Because of blogger's bent to eat my postings, I save several times before I'm done.

I'm glad to hear that you do all of the above and more. Some woman will be lucky to have you!

MaxiSmeg said...

Explanation clears up so many misconceptions. :-)

As soon as I find a woman I will tell her what you said. :-) Funny how many people say similar things to me though.

MaxiSmeg said...

Finally on topic:

I think that a lot of issues could be solved if people acted the way they really want to and not the way they feel the world thinks they should.

With regard to the welfare issue I think there is a lot to be done in this area. In Ireland at least it was finally recently accepted that there has been an exclusion of men from welfare/divorce proceedings in marriage break ups.

The feminist tendancy to negate the influence of men has led to a dearth of healthy male role models in certain sections of society.

I personally would consider this a strong causal factor (though by no means the sole causal factor) in a lot of social problems that we see today.

Miladysa said...

I just voted for you Dee :)
Good Luck!

Shrinking Wop said... for got tequila.


Chicken Wings.



That's the way...

Dee said...

LOL...You are too funny! I just posted on your blog's that for timing?

Helen said...

I think you are absolutely right and we have to treat as we want to be treated regardless of gender. Women fought for equal rights. We don't necessarily have them but have come a long way, certainly. It is hypocritical to wanted to be pampered now. Cake and eat it too?

Dee said...

Thanks Helen!