Thursday, September 29, 2005

How to Treat a Woman vs How to Treat a Man

Wine her, Dine her;
Call her, Hold her;
Surprise her,
Compliment her;
Smile at her,
Listen to her;
Laugh with her,
Cry with her;
Romance her,
Encourage her;
Believe in her,
Pray with her;
Pray for her,
Cuddle with her;
Shop with her,
Give her jewelry;
Buy her flowers,
Hold her hand;
Write love letters to her; and
Go to the ends of the earth and
back again for her.

HOW TO TREAT A MAN

Show up naked.
Bring chicken wings.

I received the above post in an email from my group of sisters. Upon receipt, I cracked up at it, thinking to myself, "Ain't that the truth!"

After the day was over and I was at home unwinding doing my reflection, it again crossed my mind, but this time I thought about it from the male's point of view and this is what I came up with:

At the cost of being drummed out of the sisterhood club, I just want to give a holler to those (not all) sisters (females) who expect all of the nurturing above in exchange for some s*x and some take out (if he's lucky). Now, I'm not gonna front, I'm not the cookingest sister in the world, but I can read a recipe at 55wpm.

Having become a Dear Abbylequa or Dr. Ruthquisha of sorts in the online dating arena, I've heard just as many or maybe more, tales of woe from men who are raising their children without child support etc. (Blew my mind!)

Yes, as women, we've been mistreated, lied to, cheated on, abused, misused and more, but in our attempts to rise above our situations and circumstances, does it mean we have to grind the brothers (men) down, reduce them to the lowest common denominator?

Can our reclaiming our selfworth, declaration of respect for ourselves or covenant to hold men accountable for their actions not include respect for the men as well?

I dunno about you but downing someone else to make me feel better, hasn't been working so far...how about you?

I say we throw away the gender card and treat men, the way we want to be treated?

What say you?

5 comments:

D.S. White said...

Hi Maxi,

You caught me before I'd completed the post. Because of blogger's bent to eat my postings, I save several times before I'm done.

I'm glad to hear that you do all of the above and more. Some woman will be lucky to have you!

Miladysa said...

I just voted for you Dee :)
Good Luck!

Shrinking Wop said...

Um....you for got tequila.

Naked.

Chicken Wings.

Tequila.

Yep...

That's the way...

D.S. White said...

LOL...You are too funny! I just posted on your blog too...how's that for timing?

Helen said...

I think you are absolutely right and we have to treat as we want to be treated regardless of gender. Women fought for equal rights. We don't necessarily have them but have come a long way, certainly. It is hypocritical to wanted to be pampered now. Cake and eat it too?
Peace...............